Repost from Women of Color Living Abroad 2011

Have you ever wanted to know what goes on at an Embassy or imagined being invited to an Embassy party to rub elbows with a diplomat? Well, if any of that interests you, then you may want to think about a career as a Foreign Service Officer.

Foreign Service Officers are diplomats employed by the U.S. Department of State. As a Foreign Service Officer you could work at any one of the 265 U.S. embassies and consulates around the world working on the implementation of foreign policy, insuring the interests of the U.S. government abroad, as well as assisting American citizens who are living and working in foreign countries.

As a Foreign Service Officer, there are five different career tracks that you may enter: Consular officer, Economic officer, Management officer, Political Officer, and Public Diplomacy Officer. If you are interested in learning more, please click on the link below. (http://careers.state.gov/officer/career-tracks)

From English Teacher to Foreign Service Officer—

Joia Starks, U.S. Consular Office in Barbados 

Joia Starks is a 2005 graduate of Hampton University. During her studies, she had an opportunity to study abroad in Mexico with a Spanish immersion program and after graduating from college, she spent 5 weeks studying abroad in Paris. Shortly after she graduated  with a degree in Marketing she moved to New York City and worked in corporate America for a couple of years, but after waking up in tears with no desire to go to work, she realized that she was unfulfilled. She missed being abroad and being in another culture experiencing new things.

So, in October 2007 she actually moved to South Korea to teach English as a second language for a year. It was nothing like the stories that she read in her youth, which is what began her adventures abroad, but it was the beginning of what would actually change her life forever.  

Teaching English in Korea

Joia, describe how you felt when you moved to Korea?

“I was super nervous. I had a lot of anxiety because I had never been to Asia and I didn’t speak Korean and I didn’t know anyone other than one person who I met on Dave’s ESL Café. I think my friends and family were more worried than I was, but because they were so nervous it made me not as nervous. I was really excited because I was embarking on what could be the most amazing adventure of my life.”

What was the best thing about living in Korea?

“There are so many great things about Korea. I really developed a good core group of friends, both expats and Koreans, which felt like family. We just clicked right away. That made the experience good. I love the food, and the vibrancy of the city. Seoul is a pretty safe place to be and I liked going out on the town eating all night and drinking. If I wanted to go to museums, I was able to do that as well.”

Was there anything negative about being abroad or being in Korea?

Yeah, I think anywhere, there are going to be some downsides. I would say the hardest thing about being and living anywhere abroad is the transition when you are trying to get settled and comfortable in this new place and it’s not yet clicking. So, my first four or five months it was a little rough because I didn’t have my core group of friends, I was missing home, I couldn’t read anything and I could barely go to the grocery store without having a melt-down. So, I think that adjusting in a new place can be a bit of a negative experience if you are just not use to it.”

What was the biggest difference from living abroad and being back home in New Jersey or was there a difference?

“I would say the biggest difference would obviously be the language. I moved to Korea not knowing Korean. Yeah, I had my little travel guide, but when you try to use it, you sound really silly. Another thing is not driving and still trying to get around the city and my little neighborhood and not that I was ever the majority in America, but in Korea I was really a minority and that was kind of difficult at first.”

When you left Korea what was the biggest thing that you took away from Korea, as far as your experience?

Basically, living in Korea is when I decided I wanted to join the State Department. So, it gave me a sense of purpose. I went to Korea wanting to challenge myself and discover new things about myself.  I think I realized that I was cut out for this type of lifestyle and I really wanted to live abroad as a career and find ways to make a difference in people’s lives in a non-traditional way. So, my biggest takeaway was building my confidence and feeling like I set out to do something, I accomplished it, and I have come out with a better sense of who I am and what I am capable of doing.”

Transition from Teacher to Consular Officer

Let’s talk now about you working for the Department of Defense State as a Foreign Service Officer

“I am a Consular Officer, and that basically means that I help out American citizens abroad.  As a Consular Officer we do immigrant and non-immigrant visas and then American citizen services, which is probably the biggest thing we do.

How did you actually get a State Department job?

It’s actually an interesting story. When I was living in Korea I was on my way to house warming party.  I’m standing in the middle of downtown Seoul and I have really no idea where I am going. All that I had was a sheet of paper with some directions and I was about to take a bus when  I see this other black woman on the bus stop. I’m kind of looking at her and I am thinking, “She’s black and I am black and she is probably a teacher too.” Well, it turns out she is not a teacher, she actually worked for the U.S. Embassy there, and ironically we were both going to the same party. So, we became friends and through her guidance I applied for something called the, “Rangel Fellowship,” which is a program that really seeks out talented minority students for the Foreign Service, and it has a sister fellowship that does that same thing called the , “Pickering Fellowship”. I applied for that and it was a lot of hard work, and luck and really great people and mentoring and some disappointment, but I got it and it set me on a path to go to the Foreign Service.

So, did you still have to take the Foreign Service Exam?

“Yes, the program basically sends you to graduate school and you have to study International Affairs., You do that for two years, complete two internships, take the Foreign Service officer exam (both the written and then the oral assessment), and then once you graduate ,you can join the Foreign Service.”

What is the biggest difference, and I know it’s a BIG difference, between when you were traveling and living abroad as a teacher and now, traveling and living as a Foreign Service officer?

“This is like my dream job and so that to me is worth giving up a sense of privacy.”

It’s totally different. When you are a regular Joe Smoe traveling around, you have a lot more leeway with your private and personal life, but now that I am with the State Department, you know you are never really off duty. The things that you say and do, people are watching you. Even in our training they tell us “You are the face of the government all the time and you really have to be careful.” It is a different level of responsibility to be the face, the eyes and ears of the President and the Secretary of State and at end of the day the American people. It’s really a very humbling and daunting challenge, but I guess the trade of f is that I am doing my dream work. This is my dream job and so that to me is worth giving up a sense of privacy.”

Did you ever foresee this coming? Had you not had the chance encounter with the young lady on the bus stop, do you still think that this would have happened for you, being in your dream job?  Do you think you would have followed down this path anyways?

“I would like to think I would have ended up on this path anyways. As I was preparing to leave Korea I was studying for the GRE’s and I knew I wanted to go into International Relations. State Department was at the top of that list, but I also knew that it was a really difficult thing to do, and it’s hard to get into. So, I was trying to build up my skills and my resume so that I could be a good candidate. It might have taken longer, that’s for sure, but I think eventually I would have ended up in this career.”

What are the benefits of actually working for the State Department?

“Oh, there are so many. I’m still pretty early on in my career, but first of all your co-workers are all these really smart people, really fun to work with, and to m e that makes all the difference in the world. It doesn’t really matter what you are doing usually, if you work with people that you like that makes your job better. So, all of my co-workers are pretty ambitious and they speak many different languages, they are traveled and we already come from a place of common ground. That is definitely a great benefit for me, being able to just relate to people off jump.

“I ended up in Barbados for my first tour, but next I could be in Russia or Venezuela. I like the fact that I get to move and do a totally different job every two years.”

The other benefit is that you are living abroad, and there is something for everyone out there. I ended up in Barbados for my first tour, but next I could be in Russia or Venezuela. I like the fact that I get to move and do a totally different job every two years. For me, that is exactly what I need, because after about two years I am antsy and ready to see something new. And then of course, there are the perks of them covering your housing. So, that is something you don’t have to worry about being abroad. Also, the money is good, you get to do work that is making a difference every single day, and that may sound really cheesy, but it’s nice to see that. Because I have been in jobs before that I really didn’t see that, and it makes a difference. “

Great, that brings me to this question; did you actually enjoy teaching when you were living in Korea?

Actually, I really did. Of course, I had days when I was not the best teacher and I know I struggled, but I really loved my kids. I actually have pictures of them hanging on my refrigerator now, because they really made my life interesting and exciting. I got to work with kindergarten all the way to high school kids, and they were all really sweet. I always said, “Even the bad kids in Korea are still really good kids.” So, I enjoyed teaching and I think it would be good, maybe when I am older.  I wish I had known a little more about teaching, I took a 6 month TESOL course, which did an okay job, but doesn’t really prepare you for when you are in front of students. But I loved teaching and I’d do it again. “

What advice would you give another young lady who is trying to make a decision to go abroad, based on your experience, what would you tell them?

If someone is on the fence on whether to do something or not. Well, this is kind of going to sound reckless, but I would say, “Just do it!” Because whatever is holding you back from doing it, probably feels much scarier in your head, what you built up something to be, usually it’s not as bad as you think it is. The mind is so powerful, and you can search the internet and be looking at pictures, listening to stories and reading blogs and whatever. You’re trying to piece together what you think this place is like, but truthfully you’re not getting the full picture. You are only getting snippets. So, if you are on the fence about going, then you just have to do it. Because if I let what people were saying about Korea stop me from going, like i.e. they don’t like black people, you are going to have a terrible time, or you can’t date there as a black women. All of these things that you hear will prevent you from going and experiencing it for yourself.”

What advice would you give to someone who is teaching and is content, but not actually following their passion at this time, but would like to be in their dream job? 

I would say to really reach out to people who are doing what you think you want to be doing. What really matters is making connections. So, if you know someone, have a friend of a friend, or there’s a forum, such as, Women of Color Living Abroad, then make connections. For one, that provides motivation for you to do what you want to and maybe step out and take that risk, and two it keeps you connected to what is happening in that industry. So, if you want to be a Master Scuba Diver, then get on a forum and talk to people who are doing what you want to do. I can’t stress that enough. It is really important that you maintain contact and connections with people who are doing things that you want to do. So, throughout my travels I would talk to people and ask them, “What are you doing, what do you want to do, do you know about this, or can you tell me about that?” I think you have to just stay inquisitive and stay connected to your passion even if you are not doing what is your passion from day to day.”

What are three adjectives that you would use to describe your Expat Experience?

“Comical- I have some funny stories living abroad, dynamic, and exhilarating”

Ok, finish this sentence. Living abroad has…

“Living abroad has been the best decision I have ever made.”


Are you wanting to travel the world, but you think you are limited to a certain career?  Well that should not be the case. There are several international careers out there, and you can have one of them. As an Expat Coach, Cha Jones can assist you with discovering exactly where you want to go, what you want to do, and creating a plan to get you there. If you are interested in doing a FREE 30 minute exploration coaching session, click here.

Clear water, sand sifting through your feet, and a warm ocean breeze as the sun kisses your back. Now, that sounds like the making of a beautiful vacation. However, if you have been limited to beach tripping within the United States because you don’t have a passport, then I want to offer you a solution. 

As a travel advocate, I must say with all seriousness getting a passport is a must. I am not sure what one would be waiting on; seriously it’s time to get your passport. However, if you have been afraid of getting a photo taken and reserving 5 to 10 minutes to complete the application along with releasing $150 check, then I have good news for you. You don’t need a passport to leave the continental United States and enjoy some amazing beaches and learn about different cultures.

You can travel and explore another culture, eat great food, and possibly hear another language or two without having a passport. Umm hmm, you read that correctly, without having a passport. But, do yourself a favor, take the photo and complete the application, because traveling the world and learning from others is fundamental to your growth and development as a human being!

Now, on to telling how you can travel without Global Citizenship Credentials (GCC), i.e. a passport. As an American you have options to explore some amazing breathtaking places outside the continental United States with a simple state-issued identification. Want tropical weather, clear water and fruity cocktails? Well, you can have those too. Here is a list of places that you might consider while waiting for your passport to return, because I know you are planning to get one.

PR Tourism

Puerto Rico. If you love everything Latin but can’t get to Latin America just yet, then PR may serve as the next best place, especially if you love Rum. Just south of Florida, you can get to PR and have sun and fun in a matter of hours. Pack your beach towels, sunscreen and Spanish dictionary. Although, you don’t need a passport in this American territory, you might need help with the language. Before I scare you too much, many people speak English, but many people don’t. So, it would be useful to brush up on your Spanish language skills. However, I think you will love getting out of the US and exploring this territory, which is amazing and has some one-of-a-kind gems. Did I mention something about Rum, well if I didn’t, you can go to the Bacardi distillery and sip a few drinks and learn about the process of making Rum. Also, PR offers one of five places in the world where you can see water glow at night in a bioluminescent bay. And if you want to explore a blend of Spanish, African, and American influenced dishes, then PR is where you want to be.  

Guam Tourism 

Guam. Don’t want to be overwhelmed by trying to see too much in such a short amount of time? combination of lemon juice, onions, local hot peppers, salt and sometimes grated coconut used to “kelaguen” either seafood, beef, chicken or even Spam, bbq, and spicy stew or Kadon Pika. Well, Guam might be for you. Guam is a small island that can be explored within a day. However, this beautiful island might take some planning and a half day of traveling to get to from the US. It’s located in the Western Pacific Ocean about 6,000 miles from LA. So, if you want to feel real international without a passport, this might be the place for you. With weather pretty much in the 80’s all year around, this little US territory is an idea spot for your next beach vacation. The currency is US dollar and the official language is English. So, don’t have to worry about bringing a language dictionary. If you love golfing, swimming, scuba diving, and sunbathing you will most likely be in heaven.  As far as food goes, you have most of the chain restaurants you have in mainland America, but there a some Guam favorites like red rice, kelaguen, which is a

Expedia Hawaii 

Hawaii. Although, Hawaii is a US state I’m including it because it’s not easily accessible and not a part of the continental US. Traveling to Hawaii, just like Guam, will take some planning and a little saving. If you are looking for cheap trip, Hawaii isn’t going to be first on your list of places to explore without a passport. I remember back in the 90’s a McDonalds quarter pounder meal was running about $10, so all I am going to say is, “Be prepared to spend a little money when traveling to Hawaii.” However, of all the places I have ever been in my little life, Hawaii is by far the most beautiful. It has some breathtaking landscapes, waterfalls, and plenty of exotic fruit. Hawaii also has its own culture, which is vastly different than that of mainland America. It is still very much infused with its own Polynesian culture that offers diverse food, traditions, and customs. So, go with an open mind and learn about the ways of the ancestors. However, remember it is a tropical island; there are several animals and plant species that you aren’t allowed to take with you, so doing your homework before you go, it is a must.

Virgin Island Tourism 

United States Virgin Islands. I know you can’t get to Jamaica or Barbados because that passport hasn’t arrived, but it’s ok because you can take a trip to the US Virgin Islands. These unincorporated US territories consist of Saint Croix, Saint John, and Saint Thomas, and a few water islands that are much smaller. There is no need to bring a dictionary because most everyone speaks English with a little Creole flare. The food tends to be a blend of different spices and much of it is imported from foreign lands. However, there are plenty of fruits grown on the islands. Fungi is one of the traditional dishes, which entails cornmeal that has been boiled and cooked to a thick consistency along with okra and eaten mostly with boiled fish. If you want to going sailing, relax on the beach, or explore some of the colonial churches, then this will be a perfect getaway. It is also a great place to get in some golf, ride a horse, or learn about lengthy history of the islands.

Tourism for America Samoa

America Samoa. This too is an unincorporated unorganized US territory. Although, English is spoken here, the dominant language is Samoan. It consists of five main islands and two coral atolls located in the South Pacific. So, if you want to plan a getaway and that makes you feel like you are real international, then this might be the place for you. With only two major seasons wet and dry, these tropical islands have an average temperature of 80 degrees most of the year. You can’t go to an island and not find a beach, but there is so much more to explore. You can rent a 4WD and discover the island for yourself, finding plenty of traditional communities. Believe it or not Samoans love football; there are about 30 American Samoan players in the NFL, as football is a major sport on the island. Go figure, you might luck up and see some football in action. As far as food goes, you can find many of the mainland American chain restaurants, but if you are looking for traditional meals then you might ask for some taro, breadfruit, and fruits like papayas, mangoes, or bananas. Traditionally it is common to grab a mat and sit on the floor and many people still eat this way, so don’t be shy grab your mat and feast.

Northern Mariana Islands. There are 15 islands that make up this commonwealth. The official language is English, but there are two other common languages spoken within these islands, which are Chamorro and Carolinian. I personally have never heard of either of the two languages, but hey you learn something new every day. The islands were once possessed by Spain and hence the Spanish influence. Just like Guam, which is a neighboring island and helps make up the Marina Islands, the temperature is usually constantly in the mid 80’s year around. The culture and food is heavily influenced by the Spanish with their empanadas and the Philippians and their pancit noodles. However, there are other foods that have been influenced by the Koreans, Japanese, and Americans. If you want to explore a hidden treasure, then Saipan might be just the location for your next vacation with crystal clear beaches and a glimpse of raw beauty.

I wanted to give you a few alternatives to your regular Florida beach trips considering you are still awaiting your passport, and you haven’t been able to get to the Caribbean. However, many of the places that you can travel to without a passport are just as amazing and equally as beautiful. Some of them take some planning and extra time and money to get to, but I am sure that when you are boasting to all your “regular” friends who only going to South Florida on vacation, you will gain the title of “well-traveled” and be able to share some amazing stories.  Again, I must reiterate my passport disclaimer. Although, you have a list of great places that you can visit being an American citizen, there is a huge world for you to explore. So, please do yourself a favor and obtain your passport sooner verses later.     

If you are interested in traveling, but don’t have a passport, what has stopped you from getting one? Where would love to go? Have you been to any other the listed places without a passport? If so, please share your likes and/or dislikes.

Cha Jones or otherwise known as The Nomadic Chick, is an Expat and Transitional Coach who works with people who love to travel, want to travel, or have to travel. If you are interested and going somewhere you have never been or planning to move to a foreign country and need some help, please reach out and take advantage of her Free 30 minute exploration coaching meeting.  

Cha Jones

I didn’t grow up with a passport. I didn’t grow up hearing people talk about Bali or Barcelona over dinner. But once I tasted the sweetness of life abroad, I was hooked. Travel didn’t just expand my geography—it expanded my sense of self. Here are ten reasons why the journey became my teacher.

1. Seeing the World Through My Own Eyes: There’s a saying: Perception is reality. But I’ve learned that reality shifts the moment you witness it firsthand. When you travel, you begin to question everything you thought you knew—everything you were taught or told—because now, you’re seeing it for yourself. It’s no longer filtered through someone else’s bias or media lens. For me, a place doesn’t truly exist—not fully—until I’ve walked its streets, breathed its air, and looked its people in the eye. That’s when the world stops being a story and becomes lived truth.

2.       Humanity Becomes Real: This flows directly from the first. When we talk about countries like Iran, Zimbabwe, or North Korea, many of us speak from what we’ve heard, not what we know. And that distance creates detachment. We start to think of people in headlines, not as humans. But the moment you sit across from someone, share a smile, break bread, or even stumble through a language barrier, they stop being a statistic. They become a soul. And suddenly, you care differently. You feel differently. You can’t unsee the truth of their lives, their struggles, or their joy. When I’ve seen hungry children in under-resourced villages, they’re no longer part of a sad commercial—they’re in my prayers, my advocacy, my stories. Travel doesn’t just show you the world—it makes it impossible to ignore the humanity within it.

3.       Beauty Is in the Eye—and the Experience—of the Beholder

They say a picture is worth a thousand words, but there’s something sacred about being in the moment. When you’re standing on a beach, warm sand sliding between your toes, ocean breeze carrying the scent of salt and sun, how do you put that into a photo? You can’t. Pictures are beautiful, yes, but they can’t hold the weight of your memories, your senses, or the healing you may have felt just being there. The experience imprints on your soul in a way no postcard ever could.

4.       I Love to EAT—For Real 

Let’s be clear: I love food. Period. But when I say authentic—whew, I mean that deep! There’s a big difference between eating Tex-Mex in the U.S. and eating tacos from a street vendor in Oaxaca or mole from an abuela’s kitchen in Puebla. Now, don’t get me wrong—I’ll still pull up for some queso dip at a chain restaurant, but real, homemade, culturally-rooted food? That’s where the magic lives. Travel gives you the chance to eat what the locals eat, how they eat it, and with whom they share it. And listen—real will always taste better than the remix.

5. Travel Is the Best Teacher
Every time I travel, I return a little wiser. Books and documentaries are great, but they can’t replace what you learn through lived experience. Whether it's navigating a new city, learning cultural customs, or understanding historical context from those who lived it, you gain knowledge that stays with you. And when you come back home, you carry stories that teach others, too.

6. Expanding the Way You Think
The world is bigger than what we’ve been taught. Travel challenges assumptions and expands your thinking in the best way. Sometimes, you’ll learn that the “dangerous” place you feared is full of kindness. Or that the country you thought was behind is more advanced in ways you didn’t expect. Travel doesn’t just take you places—it opens your mind, softens your judgments, and plants seeds for new beginnings.

7.       Rest and relaxation. I love the city—the energy, the options, the nonstop motion. But even a woman on the move needs rest. Travel offers me a sacred pause. When I sit on a beach, phone on silent, toes in the sand, and no deadlines calling my name, I’m reminded that rest is not a reward—it’s a necessity. The hustle will still be there. But those moments of stillness? They bring me back to myself. Travel helps me slow down long enough to hear my own heartbeat again.

8.       Pampering. Now listen, you should always be pampering yourself, no matter your zip code. But let me tell you, there’s a certain kind of magic that happens when you get a massage in Bali, a facial in Morocco, or sip champagne on a rooftop in Paris. When I travel, I treat myself like royalty. I eat well, sleep better, and prioritize pleasure. That’s not indulgence—that’s alignment. Travel is a beautiful reminder that you are worth every soft, luxurious moment.

9.       Stories That Stay With You. The best souvenirs aren’t trinkets—they’re stories. Stories about the woman who invited me into her kitchen in Oaxaca. About the time I got lost in Tokyo and found clarity instead. Or the moment a child in Cuba called me prima and made me cry. These are the moments that shape you. Everyone doesn’t have the privilege or courage to travel, so when we do, we become storytellers. We carry not just our experiences, but the stories of the people we meet along the way

10.   Reinvention Through the Journey. Every time I travel, I shed something old and embrace something new. A belief. A fear. A part of myself I didn’t even know was still holding on. Travel is more than a getaway—it’s a rebirth. It gives me space to try new things, show up differently, and say yes to the version of me I’ve been too scared to become. If you’re tired of who you’ve been, pack your bags. Go somewhere you’ve never been and meet the you who’s been waiting on the other side of comfort. Reinvention doesn’t require a grand plan—just the courage to begin.

So, what are your top reasons for traveling? Where have you gone and what have you learned?

I am an Expat and Transition coach, and I specialize in helping people who are trying to make changes in their lives. So, if you are interested in traveling, but don't know where to begin,  I would suggest connecting with me and doing a 30-minute Free exploration coaching call. Click here for more information. 

More than a decade later, I’m still learning from the road. Travel has been my liberation, my mirror, and my medicine. It’s not about ticking off countries. It’s about discovering who I am—again and again—with every step I take.

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Moving abroad is can be an exciting experience, giving you the opportunity to live in a different culture, and learn more about yourself as a person. Apart from the adventure of being in a new place, living in a foreign country gives you an opportunity to immerse yourself and gain in-depth knowledge about the people, culture, food, and lifestyle that you won’t get while traveling on vacation.

Having lived in South Korea for over three years, and taking the opportunity to explore the country during my time away from work was fabulous. The weekends were set aside for visiting temples, strategically getting lost and finding my way around the city, meeting other expatriates, and traveling to nearby countries. It also gave me an opportunity to expand and grow by learning more about myself. Everything was new and thrilling when first arriving in South Korea. The smells, scenery, people, and the way things were done, were all part of my new journey, which I will always cherish and remember. 

Although living in a foreign country gives you a front row seat to a new culture, which can be very exhilarating, it can also present challenges. The biggest challenge in living abroad is often communication. It is very frustrating if you do not speak the language and you aren’t able to connect on simple things. Simplicity can easily be loss in translation resulting in misunderstandings, potentially making life extremely difficult. This is something to really think about when moving to a foreign country. As a traveler, you most likely will be in a country for a short amount of time. Therefore, your challenges will be brief and adjustable. However, when you live in a country, the excitement and shininess can often fade quickly as you create routines and begin to call that place home.

I honestly enjoyed living abroad, but if there is any bit of advice to offer, before you move abroad you may want to think about your personal ability to adapt to new things and situations. Remember, you are not going on an extended vacation. You are moving to a foreign country and things are going to have its challenges, even if you speak the language and have done all the research in the world. You can almost assure there will be some challenges, but most things worth experiencing or having, come with its own set of challenges. That does not mean moving is not for you, it just means that you need to be clear that you are really ready to move instead of taking an extended vacation.

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Cha is the founder and director of Expat Women of Color, which is a 501C3 organization that helps connect who desire live, work, study and/or travel abroad with other women with similar interest. She is also a life and expat coach where she focuses on helping people create the life they want abroad. You can contact and learn more about Cha through her personal website www.chajones.com or through her blog www.thenomadicchick.com.

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By Zipporah Slaughter

I need to make a change in my life and go in a new direction.  My present lifestyle of living for the weekends, long conference calls and meetings, traffic commutes, and never ending To Do lists is no longer acceptable.  At forty-something, I have this nagging desire to venture out of my comfort zone, explore new horizons, and live abroad outside of the U.S.

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Four years ago, I had the experience of living in Salvador, Brazil on a fellowship for a year.  I had some of the lifestyle change that I am yearning now – slower pace, outdoor living, and greater work-life balance.  Then, I took more daily risks by often saying yes to invitations for the sake of meeting new people, practicing the local language, and learning the culture.  Now, what excites me about going abroad again is experiencing places and perspectives that cause me to stretch in new ways of seeing and being in the world.  The nuances of a strange environment with foreign smells, sights, and tastes awakened me before when I went abroad.  I am craving more of it.  Divine discontent (the urge to experience something more), the inner longing for something greater keeps pulling at me.

So, what am I afraid of? I have become quite comfortable with the way things are – my status quo – that change, even the change I desire is scary.  Perhaps, my biggest fear is leaving behind the familiar – the known for the unknown.  The familiar is family and close friends who know me and I know them.  In an interview with motivational speaker and self-help author Tony Robbins, Deepak Chopra, M.D. said, the known is a trap.  Go toward the unknown.  Deepak explained that we tend to seek out and want to stay in the known, our comfort zone where we feel most secure.  However, the known keeps us in bondage, tied to the past and potentially, stuck in a prison of our own making. 

I realize that any fears I have about leaving the familiar and moving abroad, I have to take them with me and do it anyway.  I have to be willing to trust that as I follow my heart’s desire, everything will be okay.  Ultimately, that I will be able to handle whatever comes up.  That is where the genuine fear lies.  Will I be able to manage the initial loneliness of immersion into a different culture?  Will I be able to endure starting over in a new environment if English is not the spoken language?  Will I be able to accept not being understood by others and possibly, not understanding them for however long it takes? 

Why put myself through all of this upheaval anyway?  What is it that I want that I believe traveling to new vistas will do for me?  In my soul searching, what I have uncovered is that what I truly desire is to feel alive, not merely to exist.  That is what this eagerness to move abroad is about – my yearning to really live; to leave the familiar and discover parts of myself I did not know and rediscover parts long forgotten.  I am seeking to let go of the small self I have become – trapped by my fears and my own confining beliefs.  It is a quest to uncover more of my authentic self.

Lencois, Brazil

Do I have to venture abroad to do it?  Probably not.  Most likely the answer is no.  Like Dorothy in the “Wizard of Oz,” the answer lies within.  I do not have to go anywhere.  Perhaps, I could simply volunteer for a worthy cause or take up an adventure sport, like sky diving or rock climbing.  Still, I seek to go out on an adventure.  To stretch into more of what I could become instead of settling for good enough.  I choose to go because the yearning for more to explore is louder than the lull of comfortable.

About the author: Zipporah is a contributing writing who lives in Atlanta, GA.

by Cha Jones 

      

Traveling gives us the opportunity to explore new things. It’s a time to kick back and relax, but it’s also a great occasion to indulge your senses, especially your taste buds. I love food and find that eating is a rather gratifying pastime that many people take for granted, but traveling can give you a passport into innovative dishes that can awaken your taste buds.

photos from Bing Images

However, traveling can be interesting for those with a picky palate.  I am not sure if I would adhere to having a picky palate, but I will admit to being particular, especially when to comes to different smells. I abhor foods that have a less than desirable smell. I do not enjoy food that smells like hot garbage, grass or any other earthy matter. Yet, sometimes good food can be a little funky. For those travelers who are not open to trying new things, you might be missing out on something very delicious.   

photos from Bing Images

If familiarity breeds content, then exotic aromas aren’t a picky traveler’s pleasure. Walking through street markets with fresh produce, meats, and a gazillion smells can either entice hunger or make you nauseous. If you are anything like me, then food diversity comes with limitations. However, having a pick palate can interfere with the adventure of traveling and make a pleasurable trip a nightmare. Last thing you want to do is go on vacation and be hungry due to lack of edible options.

Here are some tips for making picky palatable:

•  Be open and at least tasting. When I traveled to Hong Kong I ate pigeon.  I will admit, I never in a million years would have ever thought of eating a bird the cooed all day long outside my childhood home. Yet, when I say that pigeon was some of the best eating I have ever had, OMG! But if I wasn’t willing to step out my box and try something I would still be sleeping on how wonderful pigeon really is.
•  Don’t judge a plate by its presentation. Looks can be deceiving. In many foreign countries presentation is not all that important. However, some really good dishes don’t look like much of anything. Consider them hidden treasures that can only be opened by the tongue.
• Forget about table manners. Keep in mind that in some countries finger foods are anything that placed before you on a plate or dish. Don’t wait for a knife, fork, or spoon dig right in with your hands. Just make sure you wash your hands before you dig into your meal. This might seem a little barbaric, but once you throw your good ole etiquette out the window, you will find that eating without a utensil can be freeing. 
• Sharing is caring: In some countries communal eating is the norm. No, you are not in Kansas anymore. Family style eating gives you an opportunity to eat a little of everything and decide what you like without making a major commitment to one thing. So, if you are the person who isn’t committed to being married to one meal anyways, then communal eating will be your friend. The one thing I had to let go of was having other people dip into something I was eating. Just remember that food is better when enjoyed with friends. 

Cha Jones, January 2015

There is nothing like having a little homemade hooch and speaking with a Caribbean legend. The fruitiness of what I would refer to back in the States as moonshine, was a gesture that I was at home and all was well. However, don't let the hooch fool you, she is about her business. Just as we begin she stops me, “Stop the recording.”  She puts her hand on my leg and proceeds to make sure she knows my intentions. I explain that I have a blog called the Nomadic Chick and I also have a nonprofit organization that works with women and girls to encourage international travel (www.exptwomenofcolor.com). "Ok, that is wonderful, how wonderful, that is nice, I love that," she says as she taps me to turn the recorder back on. Once she is clear on my intentions, I'm able to proceed.

This creative spirit was born Ruby Angelica Bute of Aruba. Out of respect, I didn't dare ask the year and day the world accepted her. However, I know that by her work alone, the world indeed has accepted her. She is like royalty, no really!

In her own words she says, I have always seen beauty in everything. When asking her about her writings, she says she did not write until she arrived on the island of St. Martin in 1983. Although, she was born in Aruba she had never written poetry until moving to this island.  She says, “I started writing because I saw the beauty all around me. There was so much beauty on this island. In Aruba, the island was very dry and flat, so in moving to St. Martin I noticed the hills, the sea, and how the sea had various colors, and that was different from Aruba.” So, it is safe to say that St. Martin inspired her to write. 

Ruby's Paiting" Marigot Market" 

Although, she found a latent talent as a writer, Lady Bute has been painting since she was six years old. She remembers her father coming home with colors and paints when she was a child and she began painting, and never stopped. Painting has kept her as she moved through the many stages of her life. She says that art saved her from the stresses that sometimes women encounter being a mother or a wife. Her art assisted her as she dealt with the pain of being left as a single mother. “My art was my refuge and often helped me survive," she says with pride. 

Ruby's Painting "Dancing Couple"

Both of her parents were from St. Martin, and as a child her father told her not to stay in Aruba. Her father had always had land in St. Martin, and he always told her that she should go and live on the land, but she was not interested. However, when she got older she went to St. Martin to visit, and she fell in love with the beauty of the island. “My father was right with what he told me,” she says with a little laughter.

The fourth child of five and she says she was always the adventurous one. “I always wanted to know more than what was on the surface or what you can see of all my siblings. I was the one who went looking for things," she says smiling. When asked about adventures and when she began telling stories she informs me that her mother and her grandmother were both storytellers, and she has been telling stories since she could remember. “When I was a child we didn't have a TV and my mother would tell us stories all the time, so I got my storytelling from my mother,” she recalls.

 Ruby's Painting "Tanny and the Boys"

If you go to the Caribbean someone will know of Lady Ruby, but when asking her, she will tell you she was shy as a girl. “When I was growing up I was very shy, the shiest girl you could ever meet.  I never wanted to be out there, but my art took me out there. My paintings and my writing opened me to the world, but I didn’t go looking for it, it came to me.”  Her art opened her up to radio interviews, then television interviews, and she began receiving attention from the locals. However, the attention did not stay local for long, it eventual grew to other islands and maneuvered into the government accepting her as “their” artist, and now people come from all over the world to do interviews.

The government began sending her out on cultural exchanges to Holland to be with other artist and writers.  She no longer is the once shy little girl, “I am comfortable in this role, and it is more than I would ever think, but now I am comfortable into the heights I have taken.  I once would not dare speak on the radio or TV, but now it is a piece of cake.”

Her notoriety hasn't  stopped, it continues to grow. If you pick up any travel magazine in the Caribbean you will find something about Lady Ruby Bute. In her words, “I am in not in just one magazine, I am in many, just pick one up and they have something about me and my work.” She is in no way boasting, this humble Caribbean gem is really in several magazines, I can attest to reading at least four. That’s exactly how I stumbled upon this St. Martin diamond. I was glancing through a travel magazine on the airplane, and now, I can say I have met her, drank her homemade hooch, and had a conversation that will inspire me for the rest of my life. If  you ever want to meet this angelic creator you don't have to look too far, when you go to St. Martin just utter her name and the locals will point you in the right direction.

Silk Cotton Grove Art Gallery
La Batterie Rue Friar's Bay
F-97150 St. Martin, French West Indies, France
Email: rubybute@hotmail.com

Me and Lady Ruby Bute

Cha Jones, January 2014

Destiny has its way of directing me where I need to be. On my recent trip to St. Maarten I came across a Destination magazine and began flipping through pages where I was introduced to one Ruby Bute. Since I don’t believe in coincidences, I knew I had to find her, and find her, I did.

My friends and I arrived in Friar’s Bay, St. Martin on the French side of the island where street signs directed us to the world renowned artist, poet and storyteller Lady Ruby Bute. When saying her name to the taxi driver Mr. Ash, he immediately begins speaking of her with such delight. You get the sense that she is a gem to know and Caribbean royalty.

Lady Ruby is welcoming. The moment we walk into the gallery I felt like I was a home. The gallery is filled with beautiful paintings full of color that dance with imaginary. She is finishing a class with some students from Semester at Sea who found her while exploring the island on their cultural excursion.  While offering her closing remarks she steps outside on the porch and all the students and faculty surround the steps as if they are going to be listening to a dignitary. With the joy of a child she begins to spout wisdom and express her gratitude for them having class with her on this beautiful sunny day. I later find out that the class wasn't at all scheduled, but you get the sense that Lady Ruby is a free spirit and goes with the flow. As they prepare to depart, she gives them some final words and then teaching them a few words in her native Aruba dialect.

She is an Aruba born creative artist and humble as pie. At first glance she reminds me of what we African American’s call our grandmothers, Big Momma, which in many cases, are larger than life wise women who pillow you with love and guide you with ancient wisdom.  Her Caribbean accent is thick but sings with a soulfulness that makes me feel like I too should be from an island.  You can tell that age and wisdom sit with her, but when speaking with this wise elder I know that she still has the youthfulness of a child that wakes her with excitement. She is in love with life and I feel it as her words greet me.

This is an impromptu visit prompted by a magazine find that I couldn't be denied, and within a few moments I’m asking permission to interview her for my blog. Without hesitation she agrees and it is like sitting with an old friend catching up on old times.

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