By Zipporah Slaughter
I need to make a change in my life and go in a new direction. My present lifestyle of living for the weekends, long conference calls and meetings, traffic commutes, and never ending To Do lists is no longer acceptable. At forty-something, I have this nagging desire to venture out of my comfort zone, explore new horizons, and live abroad outside of the U.S.
I need to make a change in my life and go in a new direction. My present lifestyle of living for the weekends, long conference calls and meetings, traffic commutes, and never ending To Do lists is no longer acceptable. At forty-something, I have this nagging desire to venture out of my comfort zone, explore new horizons, and live abroad outside of the U.S.
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Four years ago, I had the experience of living in Salvador,
Brazil on a fellowship for a year. I had
some of the lifestyle change that I am yearning now – slower pace, outdoor
living, and greater work-life balance. Then,
I took more daily risks by often saying yes to invitations for the sake of
meeting new people, practicing the local language, and learning the culture. Now, what excites me about going abroad again
is experiencing places and perspectives that cause me to stretch in new ways of
seeing and being in the world. The
nuances of a strange environment with foreign smells, sights, and tastes
awakened me before when I went abroad. I
am craving more of it. Divine discontent
(the urge to experience something more), the inner longing for something greater
keeps pulling at me.
So, what am I afraid of? I have become quite comfortable with
the way things are – my status quo – that change, even the change I desire is
scary. Perhaps, my biggest fear is
leaving behind the familiar – the known for the unknown. The familiar is family and close friends who
know me and I know them. In an interview
with motivational speaker and self-help author Tony Robbins, Deepak Chopra,
M.D. said, the known is a trap. Go
toward the unknown. Deepak explained
that we tend to seek out and want to stay in the known, our comfort zone where
we feel most secure. However, the known
keeps us in bondage, tied to the past and potentially, stuck in a prison of our
own making.
I realize that any fears I have about leaving the familiar
and moving abroad, I have to take them with me and do it anyway. I have to be willing to trust that as I
follow my heart’s desire, everything will be okay. Ultimately, that I will be able to handle
whatever comes up. That is where the genuine
fear lies. Will I be able to manage the initial
loneliness of immersion into a different culture? Will I be able to endure starting over in a
new environment if English is not the spoken language? Will I be able to accept not being understood
by others and possibly, not understanding them for however long it takes?
Why put myself through all of this upheaval anyway? What is it that I want that I believe
traveling to new vistas will do for me?
In my soul searching, what I have uncovered is that what I truly desire is
to feel alive, not merely to exist. That
is what this eagerness to move abroad is about – my yearning to really live; to
leave the familiar and discover parts of myself I did not know and rediscover
parts long forgotten. I am seeking to
let go of the small self I have become – trapped by my fears and my own confining
beliefs. It is a quest to uncover more
of my authentic self.
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Do I have to venture abroad to do it? Probably not.
Most likely the answer is no.
Like Dorothy in the “Wizard of Oz,” the answer lies within. I do not have to go anywhere. Perhaps, I could simply volunteer for a
worthy cause or take up an adventure sport, like sky diving or rock climbing. Still, I seek to go out on an adventure. To stretch into more of what I could become
instead of settling for good enough. I choose
to go because the yearning for more to explore is louder than the lull of
comfortable.
About the author: Zipporah is a contributing writing who lives in Atlanta, GA.
About the author: Zipporah is a contributing writing who lives in Atlanta, GA.
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